by Francis Githinji
Marriage guidance is paramount in any marital relationship. In other words, you will require a proper guide to enable you reach the place where you wish to go. Marriage is a relationship between two people who have come together to declare that they are in love for life. This makes it one of the most complicated unions for mankind. There are many moments of bliss and you will also find other moments where it feels like hell. Marriage guidance, seeks to help couples recognize the bad things in marriage and solve or manage the problems. Therefore, when it comes to it, you can be sure that problems are always going to be there. The following are some of the things that may cause tension in a marriage. First, there is always the issue of communication. It is pretty important for a couple to be on the same page otherwise, the relationship will suffer communication breakdown. Marriage guidance will come in and assist the couple to restore their communication. There are so many places where you can go for marriage guidance and, they include online, from counselors, friends, religious leaders and others.
This are places where couples can consult to come up with an amicable solution for their problems. There are couples who are not open to the idea of being guided by people they hardly know. For this reason, they ignore guidance and continue to wallow in their problem. The worse thing that a couple can do is not to have grave problems but, to ignore those problems. However, when it comes to solving the problem, you must decide whether you need outside help or not. There are so many common problems which married couples can solve on their own without professional guidance. You do not have to be on the verge of divorce to realize that you need guidance. Make sure you keep observing the direction of your marriage. This will enable you recognize a problem when you come across it. The other problem that might call for guidance is the issue of finances. Money is always a big problem when it comes to marriage. A wife wants one thing and the husband wants something else. Sometimes, the expenditure might be too high contrary to the agreement that the couple might have.
These are issues enough to cause a storm in the house. If they are not addressed they will spill over and make the marriage shaky. Experts in marriage guidance will help you reach a compromise. They will not be making decisions for you but, they will just seek to help you see all the angles and perspectives you have been missing. If you are really concerned about your marriage, it is paramount that you think on this very seriously. Seeking help does not say that you are weak. It only shows that you care enough to find help. Strong marriages go through problems and, their secret simply knows how to handle problems. If you feel like you cannot save your marriage, you are probably frustrated and giving up. Seek help today and see the difference it will make in your life.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
The Compulsory Registration of Marriage Act
Marriage is no longer a divine union that requires celestial blessings included in the various religious rituals associated with it. It has got far reaching legal consequences too. It is for this legal reason that we have to consider this law. Moreover, the growing number of divorce cases, cases regarding custody of children and maintenance, polygamy, and dowry deaths reveal that marriage is no longer considered as a divine union by the society. Hence let us not be under the illusion that this law would violate the sacredness of marriage rites.
IS THIS A NEW LAW?
As it is, any Indian citizen who opts to marry under the Special Marriage Act of 1954 automatically has the marriage registered by the marriage officers who has been specially appointed for the purpose.
The Indian Christian Marriages Act of 1872 also demands for compulsory registration of marriages. Accordingly entries are made in the marriage register of the church, soon after the ceremony along with the signatures of the bride, bridegroom, the officiating priest and witnesses. The Registration of marriages is mandatory under the Parsi Marriage and Divorce Act of 1936. Marriage being a civil contract for the Muslims, the qazi records the terms of the marriage in a nikahnama and hands it over to the married couple. It is only under the Hindu Personal Law that it is not compulsory to register the marriage.
IMPLEMENTATION OF THE LAW
Certain State governments have out of the their concern to stop the crimes committed against women and children made the registration of marriage compulsory. They believed that giving legal status to wedlock would strengthen the institution of marriage. Thus we had,
* The Bombay Registration Marriages Act, 1953, which is applicable to the states of Maharashtra
* The Karnataka Marriages Act enacted in 1976 and in force since 1983.
* The Himachal Pradesh Registration of Marriage Act, 1997.
* The Andhra Pradesh Compulsory Registration of Marriage Act 2002.
PROBLEMS DUE TO NON-IMPLEMENTATION OF LAW:
The non-registration of marriage under Hindu Marriage Act has given rise to two major problems.
The Hindu Marriage Act on bigamy has got many loopholes. The Section 494 of the Indian Penal Code also has some faults while dealing with the offence of remarriage of husband or wife when the either of them is alive. So far these laws required that certain ceremonies have to be performed for a marriage to be valid. These ceremonies could be done according to the caste and religion of the bride and the bridegroom. Unless these ceremonies are performed the marriage is considered to be invalid. This holds good for bigamous marriage too. Women are the primary victims of bigamous relationships and they are the most affected ones because of the non-registration of marriage. They find it difficult to get property or maintenance in case of dispute, as they are not able to produce any proof for the validity of their marriage. There are umpteen cases where the wives have lost their case because of their inability to prove their first or second marriage of their husbands.
IS THIS A NEW LAW?
As it is, any Indian citizen who opts to marry under the Special Marriage Act of 1954 automatically has the marriage registered by the marriage officers who has been specially appointed for the purpose.
The Indian Christian Marriages Act of 1872 also demands for compulsory registration of marriages. Accordingly entries are made in the marriage register of the church, soon after the ceremony along with the signatures of the bride, bridegroom, the officiating priest and witnesses. The Registration of marriages is mandatory under the Parsi Marriage and Divorce Act of 1936. Marriage being a civil contract for the Muslims, the qazi records the terms of the marriage in a nikahnama and hands it over to the married couple. It is only under the Hindu Personal Law that it is not compulsory to register the marriage.
IMPLEMENTATION OF THE LAW
Certain State governments have out of the their concern to stop the crimes committed against women and children made the registration of marriage compulsory. They believed that giving legal status to wedlock would strengthen the institution of marriage. Thus we had,
* The Bombay Registration Marriages Act, 1953, which is applicable to the states of Maharashtra
* The Karnataka Marriages Act enacted in 1976 and in force since 1983.
* The Himachal Pradesh Registration of Marriage Act, 1997.
* The Andhra Pradesh Compulsory Registration of Marriage Act 2002.
PROBLEMS DUE TO NON-IMPLEMENTATION OF LAW:
The non-registration of marriage under Hindu Marriage Act has given rise to two major problems.
The Hindu Marriage Act on bigamy has got many loopholes. The Section 494 of the Indian Penal Code also has some faults while dealing with the offence of remarriage of husband or wife when the either of them is alive. So far these laws required that certain ceremonies have to be performed for a marriage to be valid. These ceremonies could be done according to the caste and religion of the bride and the bridegroom. Unless these ceremonies are performed the marriage is considered to be invalid. This holds good for bigamous marriage too. Women are the primary victims of bigamous relationships and they are the most affected ones because of the non-registration of marriage. They find it difficult to get property or maintenance in case of dispute, as they are not able to produce any proof for the validity of their marriage. There are umpteen cases where the wives have lost their case because of their inability to prove their first or second marriage of their husbands.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Common Relationship and Marriage Problems
by Can Marchante
ommon marriage and relationship problems are not always hallmarks of the end of a world, but once routine interactions have deteriorated to this extent, you may need some help or advice, marriages and relationships are very fragile and it is probably essential to seek some external help.
Below are four of the most common issues plaguing couples today In order of least to most dangerous, the common marriage problems are...
(1) Criticism, involves attacking someone’s personality rather than their behavior...
(2) Contempt, leads directly from the first...
(3) Defensiveness,enters the picture once contempt is present...
(4) Stonewalling.appears when you're nearing rock bottom...
In order to find out what the problem in your relationship really is you should be able to listen to each other and understand. Communication in any Marriage or Relationship so important it can't be stressed enough no matter what happens you need to keep talking that is the point of this whole article. Communication... talking not yelling, screaming,or throwing a temper tantrum.
The truth is a relationship is nothing when it is broken .
The common problems are...
infidelity...
personality...
career...
finances...
Communication in any Marriage or Relationship so Important
ommon marriage and relationship problems are not always hallmarks of the end of a world, but once routine interactions have deteriorated to this extent, you may need some help or advice, marriages and relationships are very fragile and it is probably essential to seek some external help.
Below are four of the most common issues plaguing couples today In order of least to most dangerous, the common marriage problems are...
(1) Criticism, involves attacking someone’s personality rather than their behavior...
(2) Contempt, leads directly from the first...
(3) Defensiveness,enters the picture once contempt is present...
(4) Stonewalling.appears when you're nearing rock bottom...
In order to find out what the problem in your relationship really is you should be able to listen to each other and understand. Communication in any Marriage or Relationship so important it can't be stressed enough no matter what happens you need to keep talking that is the point of this whole article. Communication... talking not yelling, screaming,or throwing a temper tantrum.
The truth is a relationship is nothing when it is broken .
The common problems are...
infidelity...
personality...
career...
finances...
Communication in any Marriage or Relationship so Important
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