The Top 10 Problems in Marriage

by Lisa Tanner


Marriage is a hard job. No matter how hard you try, some problems just can't be avoided. Here are the top ten problems in marriage, in no particular order.

1) Cheating Spouse - Far and way the most painful, and best dealt with by getting an admission from the offending spouse without cluing them in that you know. The guilt will normally bring them back in line if the marriage can be saved. If the cheating continues, run like hell.

2) Negative Talking - Stop speaking negatively of your spouse and be nice.

3) Too much time together - You must have a balanced life and quit depending on your spouse to make you happy. Their job is only to provide the tools, not control your feelings for you.

4) Too much time apart - This usually happens not because of a lack of things in common, but for some other underlying reason that makes one spouse avoid the other.

5) Family Interference - Your spouse married you, and you them. That trumps all family input from outside the marriage.

6) Kids - I love kids, but some people just don't and should never have them. But if your spouse makes a good parent, they can be a good spouse if you allow them to be.

7) Money - A lot of marriages consist of one spender and one saver. This can lead to all sorts of fun and a compromise must be reached.

8) Communication Failure - Have you considered your spouse may not want to talk to you because of the way you respond when they do? Take the lead.

9) Perception of Home Life - I say perception because that really determines reality. If one spouse is not happy, they will make the other one miserable. The choice of living arrangements must always be agreed upon or problems will arise.

10) Lack or Loss of Trust - Without trust in a marriage you have nothing to build on. Trust be not only be earned, it must be given as well.

These are the top ten problems in marriage and the root of all divorce.